I’ve held off in responding, in part because I was one who posted the original article.
My sense is that we’re very much coming at this from the same perspective. Part of the challenge when I see articles like this is that we all have different understandings of what it means to “be relevant” and to “change.” If by “relevant,” we’re talking about the ability to walk alongside people (and society) in their deepest pain, you’re right — being “relevant” doesn’t “change.” At its core, loving God and loving neighbor don’t change.
Yet “relevant” does “change” in other ways. Some of that is the recognition that our deepest pains (as individuals and in our society) do change, In some aspects of the faith, we can also gain different understandings of scripture over time. In my tradition, for example, there is a different understanding of the place of women in leadership compared to decades ago. When I was a child, the inability of women to use their gifts in certain areas of ministry brought pain, for example, both to them and to those who appreciated their gifts. Amidst a broader society that was reshaping gender roles, that’s a “change” that brough “relevance” to some. I recognize as well that not all strands of the faith are at the same point on this particular topic, but there are other examples I could name from my tradition, ranging from some that feel quite significant to other examples that feel pretty insignificant now, but at one point in time, were quite significant to those involved in the conversations. Perhaps there are examples of those in your tradition as well.
But you’ve captured the challenge in identifying the tendency to define “relevant” as the need to “adapt to what our members want.” In a denominational magazine a few years ago, a pastor wrote to the effect of “Find a church that you don’t like, and stay.” His premise was that our tendency to go “church shopping” for the church with the hippest this and coolest that turns us into “consumers” of church rather than being committed to our local worshipping community. Another friend compared “church shopping” to that of a buffet, reminding me that in the line at Pizza Ranch/Ponderosa/China Buffet, our tendency is to take more of the stuff we don’t need and less of the stuff that we do need.
I’m not suggesting that it should be our goal to take part in the church that makes us the most miserable. And you’re exactly right in that it’s our task as a church to talk about the “why” in why we do what we do, shaping people in faith along the way, whether that shaping is in how we worship on Sunday (or other day) or how we live out our faith seven days a week. Unfortunately, in the world of the sound bite and bumper sticker, we often feel we don’t have the time for that shaping, and we compare ourselves to the church down the street with flasheier programming and watch it get bigger and bigger while ours gets smaller and smaller.
And yet, there’s an element of truth in that we as a church probably do need to “change” in some ways to become more “relevant.” I confess that I cringe when the church in town has a drawing for a motorcycle on Father’s Day to try attracting men. I don’t think I could do that as a pastor. But I also have to confess that this church is indeed ministering to the men who end up coming as a result. From the field I work with (financial stewardship), I lament no longer passing the offering plate. I miss feeling the tangible act of worship in putting my offering in the basket each week. I worry about how we will model generosity to our children, recognizing that I learned to give by watching the weekly model of my parents. But I also know that my congregation received 47 percent of its giving electronically last year, plus more that came in through Qualified Charitable Distributions or Donor Advised Fund gifts. How we “do” the offering needed to change to become relevant to people’s giving patterns.
I gotta stop now. I think it’s wrestling with some of these questions has also contributed to the tiredness many of us in ministry are feeling. (I’ve also named in other settings that brevity is not one of my spiritual gifts, so I need to stop for that reason as well!)
I think it would be great enjoyable to pick up this conversation as we watch a game together sometime, Dantal!