Sure, but I'm not sure that's a bad thing. The issue, as I see it, is that people are suggesting that certain ways of framing dialogue can be seen as ... troubling. Instead of seeing that problem, you get defensive and suggest that Tom is being attacked. I find that interesting. You say that you can't see how the thread titles would be different as only Tom could answer that (presumably as you can't speak for Tom) but at the same time you have the ability to see how Tom is being attacked (when he wasn't). I think that's a good marker of Brock's points about white privilege and fragility.