I agree with much of your post, but there is a major flaw. First though, I agree we need to stop talking about marriage as a "right" - it's a license, not a right. Religious people need to remember that it's a judge who approves it, not the minister who conducts it that determines the marriage we're talking about here. (legal marriage) People fighting for gay marriage have to keep this fight in the proper context as well, some of the dialogue about how they are being denied a right gets almost comically inaccurate. My issue with you is that this phenomenon of people opposed to gay marriage fighting over the word is a recent development. The concept of civil unions for gay people has been around since at least the late 80s and was fought, tooth and nail, by religious, anti-gay marriage people from the get-go. I know, I've had this conversation with family members many times in the last 10-15 years. If this were truly about the word, civil union legislation would've been a slam dunk and the DOMA would have never existed. I ask anyone who disagrees to give me another reason why DOMA exists if it's only about the term, not about the legal rights. DOMA is, was, and continues to be legislated bigotry. The fact is, the ground beneath the feet of people opposed to gay marriage is shrinking and they are clutching to anything that diverts attention from the heart of the matter (they don't want gays to be able to marry, no matter what you call it) and using the term as a shield is the new vogue thing. We could call marriage "civil partnerships" or "The Union of Guaranteed Perpetual Unhappiness" or "God's approval to breed" and it wouldn't matter - it's the fact that gay people want it that's the issue. Not what we call it. I hope that wasn't offensive, but the national conversation on this (from both sides) is beyond aggravating.