No one is suggesting that White people should feel guilty for their privilege (though white guilt is another phenomenon, not so dissimilar, still discrete from what we are talking about here). Rather, I think the use of privilege is to evoke a feeling of being lucky, or feeling of gratitude for circumstances one did not earn. As opposed to just asserting some base-line of this is how it should always be, and thereby, something we can easily take for granted. Some of the problem is that white privilege does indeed depend on others detriment. That the equally-qualified candidate of color did not get the job/(or opportunity, educational experience, etc.) is certainly an unearned boon for you and me. Equality in this respect may indeed ask white people to give up something, something they may not have asked for, but they have benefited from any way. (This is scary, and I think this is a big reason why someone like Trump has so much traction. Especially among the white poor, who may feel they have so little, if there was any advantage, must they give that up, too?) Language does matter. But let's be real, in this instance we're talking about the effect of language on the already dominant group of people, and we're talking about changing our language to make that dominant group more comfortable with a difficult conversation that should implicate their dominance. There's more than a bit of irony there/here. For instance, there is no one making (or advocating for making) accommodations to our language and speech so that more women or people of color are willing to engage in this discussion. (After seeing the past several pages of posts, do you think we've created a welcoming venue to invite such voices? I don't. Again, this isn't about blame or guilt, it's observing a phenomenon, and being honest about its effect.) I'm far more interested in bringing in those voices then I am with making certain that white guys don't feel unfairly subsumed by what is obviously a generalization, as it is a phenomenon happening in the aggregate, and not necessarily an indictment of individuals. I think you're missing the forest for the trees. I understand your point, but it's one that derails the conversation we should be having, and further marginalizing the very interests of the people this conversation ought to bring to light.