Yeah, it was heart-breaking to hear the story but what really struck me was just how torn up the foster parents were about the situation. When we met them, they had run the gauntlet of foster classes (Hennepin county is pretty awesome, it has dozens of classes for all types of behavioral, birth defect, diagnoses, etc.) and they were at their wit's end. They had this child who was basically breaking their household, a child they had tried to adopt for years but were blocked from doing so. And so they were just throwing up their hands in defeat. As much as all that sounds terrible to say, their look of defeat was worse. As much as foster parenting sucks from within the system (and it's pretty brutal at times), the vast majority of us just want what's best for the child. Some of us are better at that than others (no judgment, just a fact) but we all try. And the government gets in the way of that happening sooooooo often. ICWA is one of the worst offenders of that idea. It exists for a purpose but its implementation is absolutely ****ing terrible. All it does is leave thousands of Native American children trapped in a system that is bad at everything. The state is not a parent. That state can barely manage to keep itself together, much less deal with the constant, ever-changing needs of a child.