1, I agree, you both need friends and support groups that aren't only there as a couple. You need to have things you like to do together, and to do separately. That's huge. 2. You need to talk about everything, and assume nothing. Money, religion, kids, politics, who cooks/cleans, everything. No matter what you think you know right now, it changes. 3. We had marriage issues this year.* It's not much of a secret to a lot of people. Hopefully no one finds out here first that we know! The thing that stuck with me in therapy is that you go thru different marriages over time. Cohabitation is different then pre kid marriage, is different than kid marriage, is different than after kid marriage. Some people stay with the same person thru all 3-5 stages. Some don't. What you think you know about each other at each stage? You aren't ready for the next stage, no matter how much you think you are. Be patient. *if anyone is having issues, and wants to talk, I'm available. Talking helps.