As with most things, managers should fall somewhere in the middle between raging, drunk, yelling guy and “you can take BP or not. If you want. Maybe”.
I don’t think laissez faire managing works in anything. Business world, parenting, teaching, and certainly the coaching world.
And nowadays, guys are absolutely not going to respond to a Mike Zimmer type either. Coaches at the youth and high school level (even college) are not allowed to be “old school”, so I doubt if they’d be ok with it at the professional level. Coaches were largely insane “back in my day”, and now we’ve tried to remedy that by going too far the other way, where any criticism is unwarranted.
My opinion, you don’t need to be a hard*** to your team nor do you need to be their buddy. Personally I think the whole organization is a little too laid back in some of their approaches and I think it fosters an environment where toughness is lacking. Also I don’t think t’s a coincidence that the twins are generally terrible at fundamentals either