This is a mistake and a story I will never forget. When I was an older kid, the group I hung around with used the term "That is Gay', It wasn't meant to offend the LGBT community, it was more meant as "That Sucks". back in the year 2000, me and my girlfriend, who is now my wife, go up to the local watering hole by my mother's house as I was living with my mom at the time, and it happens to be a LGBT and Friends Bar. I must have used that term enough in the roughly first year of me and my wife being together, that it rubbed off on her. We were talking to the owner while having a few drinks, the owner was a woman and deeply involved in a same sex relationship. Rick Springfield's song Jessie's Girl started to play from the Jukebox and my wife said "This song is gay." The owner responded, ""That's okay around these parts." It is safe to say me and my wife left very quickly after that episode... never to use that term again.